Researchers at HearthMath Institute , after many interviews with patients, showed that there are 5 brain fallacies :
1. Brain Fallacy One: The outside world is working against us.
The brain sees the world as a problem to be dealt with, and all human behavior is a function of environmental stimuli and we are victims of a very cruel, often unfair world. The brain is always ready to do battle with that world and protect whatever turf it can for as long as it can.
The brain has a ready answer for what Albert Einstein considered to be most important question of all: “Is the universe a friendly or unfriendly place?”. The brain is certain the universe is unfriendly and must be wrestled with in order to survive. Because of this deterministic orientation, the brain keeps telling us that we must be constantly ready to do our best against the cosmic odds stacked against us. In the ultimate mental paradox the brain often abuses and exploits its own heart to the point that it kills itself by trying so hard to save it own life.
Psychologist B.F.Skinner said: “A person does not act upon the world, the world acts upon him”. The implication drawn by the brain is that one can control one’s own life only by a complete, constant and ever vigilant attempt to regulate the outside world as much as possible.
The way of the heart is much less environmental deterministic than the brain and is based on a view of the universe as essentially a friendly place.
“When something doesn’t go my way, I let go of my idea of how it should be, trusting that my mind doesn’t know the larger picture”.
2. Brain Fallacies Two: Victimization
The brain has a tendency toward chronic blaming. Since it considers itself to be “us” and to be the most brilliant of all of our organs, it quickly cries “foul” when things don’t seem to go it’s way. When the expected promotion at work, credit for an achievement, reward for a loving act, convenient parking place, or compliance by others with its expectations and need for control do not seem immediately and rapidly forthcoming, it perceive injustice. “Unfair, why you, why not me, and how could you” are its immediate response.
The heart considers itself a part of a three part Mind, made up of brain, body and heart and its ready to join with the rational power of the brain and the extraordinary senses of the body to make its soothing contribution to our daily living. While the brain uses its rational brilliance to seek reasons, the heart’s wisdom teaches that the three part Mind it is a part of can never get its way, only go with The Way.
3. Brain Fallacies Three: Hard Work Always Pays Off
Even though the brain sees the universe as a powerful and unfriendly place, it is convinced it can get its piece of the pie, by outworking other brains. It thinks that , with enough effort, clever maneuvering to take advantage of others, and sacrifice of those aspects of life the heart so longs for, it can keep itself alive. Many self help books are written in the brain’s code. They contains instructions for being all you can be, avoiding the errors of dysfunctionality, doing all you can do, and winning – no matter that every victory requires another person’s loss.
A self help book written in the heart’s code would be more of “us help” book and would provide four essential health warnings:
1. don’t abuse your heart by allowing your brain to physically harm it by exposing it to constant stress and straining toward self-fulfillment.
2. don’t exploit your heart by allowing your brain to misappropriate its miraculous energy for selfish purposes.
3. don’t deprive your heart by allowing your brain’s innate selfishness to distance you from the hearts of others.
4. don’t neglect your heart by allowing your brain to be so busily and reactively consumed with trying to stay alive that it forgets to allow time for your heart to proactively reflect on what purposes you chose for your living.
The heart knows that success cannot be pursued but must ensue as a result of a more gentle, balanced, caring, connected and loving orientation to the world. The heart knows that there are many environmental factors that are intransigent and beyond anyone’s control. It knows that some life obstacles are put there because they cannot be overcome and because they can teach us to stop trying and start BEING.
4. Brain Fallacies Four: I Can Change People
The brain tends to consider itself a very powerful and clever controller of other brains and very self effective. It thinks it can be smart enough to get other people to change, to move in the directions it desires. When do they not, the brain becomes angry, impatient and even urges the body to aggressive acts.
The heart is wise enough to know that the brain cannot change other brains, but it also knows that, if it will listen, its brain can learn to think about other people in a more tolerant, gentle, accepting manner. The heart knows “you can’t really change people, but you can change how you think about people”.
5. Brain Fallacies Five: Frustration Means Aggression
For the impatient brain, frustration of its objectives quickly leads to anger. Research now shows, however, that it is not so much that thoughts of frustration lead directly to aggressive acts but that frustration provokes feelings of anger and hostility and challenges to self control. These unpleasant feelings in turn lead to aggression aimed at whomever and whatever is nearby. Thus, the brain’s frustration turns to an anger that ignites belligerence. The brain may have become frustrated at work and become angry later at home, causing disruption in the family system. This is due to the brain’s displaced frustration.
The type of education I am calling for in this workshop is learning to read subtle energetic warnings from your heart that it feels hurt when it is left out of the brain/body dialogue or is stressed beyond its limits by its demanding brain.
By learning to tap into your heart’s code, you may be able to prolong not only your own life but the lives of those you love. Perhaps the most important health warning of all is “TO HAVE A HEART “.